How to be popular: 8 Easy tips to becoming the "it-girl" of your dreams

Lately the song International Smile by Katie Perry has inspired me to think about the idea of an "It" Girl.

"Flowers in her hair, she don't care. Peach-pink lips, yeah, everybody stares
You think you've seen her in a magazine. It's like she walked right out of your dreams"

For those of you who may be asking "what is an it-girl?" here is a brief explanation:
An It Girl is someone who has this intangible quality that draws everyone in. Someone who has the charisma to light up a room upon her entrance.

She may not be the most beautiful in the room, but her contagious smile paired with her lively personality and a charming positive outlook – she certainly has no trouble finding herself adored by most.  People meeting her for the first time often feel that they have met her before or have known her for years. Everyone feels better, uplifted and inspired after talking momentarily with her, and the rest are left longing for the chance to be spoken to.

You want to be her now, don't you? After studying this intriguing topic, I have developed some guidelines on on how to hone in on your own je ne sais quoi.



To starting having "that certain something" follow these 8 tips:

1. Never complain.  Negativity is contagious, and if your relationships with people mainly consist of back and forth venting about your problems, no one is going to associate you with anything besides that feeling of "life sucks." Let's face it, complainers are unattractive people. You can say all the positive things you want, but throw one "Ugh, I'm so tired, and my feet hurt so much from these heels." out there and every positive thing you've said fades way.
2. Stay Inspired to Inspire. The most uplifting people are those whom after talking to, you feel inspired to make a change in your life for the better. In order for you to give out creative ideas all the time you need to find your inspiration DAILY. The key to finding your own inspiration is make time for the things that make you happy, make you think and make you humble.
3. Gossiping tarnishes your "It" Girl Potential.  Let's be honest, we all love to hear gossip and hear about others failures or misfortunes.  However, if people come to you for the latest gossip all the time, chances are they fear you are saying nasty things about them as well, and they will keep their guard up around you. The friendship will be fake and a waste of time. To be a good trusted friend one must display confidentiality and trustworthiness so never be caught indulging in gossip.
4. Never Speak Ill of Others.  Speak lovely things, and people will associate spending time with you as a lovely time. Saying nasty things about people to to people makes you fierce and scary - if that's what you're going for, all the power to you. Remember, an "It" Girl's comebacks are always with tact and class, in replace of sass.
5. Balance of Confidence & Humility. 
   
   Confidence is beautiful, cockiness is not. Find that balance of knowing who you are and what makes you uniquely valuable to the world while keeping in mind that everyone around you has something of value too.
6. Friendly to Everyone / Being a Good Listener.  Being warm and genuine all the time is undoubtably an attractive characteristic. Say hello to those you pass by, go to school/work with and start to build an up a pool of acquaintances. Never hesitate to give a compliment. Always make sure your interactions are positive and focus on the others person in the conversation more. Ask questions about anything they bring up and keep them talking about what makes them happy. They will leave the conversation feeling happy.
7. Respect & Carry Yourself Well.  Never talk bad about your own appearance or failures. Apologize only for making mistakes, then onwards & upwards. Stand with a proud posture and don't apologize for features you were born with. Don't just accept who you are, embrace the things that make you different like it's the most valuable thing in the world. Take care to be presentable at all times, even for a carefree vibe make sure to wear clean clothes shower regularly and try to take care of yourself. Purge your closet of all heavily worn, torn, or stretched out clothing items.
8. Wear your Troubles Lightly.  Keeping personal troubles locked up from everyone besides very, very close friends, is something It Girl Audrey Hepburn was known for. Don't let your personal life, family drama, financial crisis, health issues or career worries get into conversations. If you don't have one very close confidant, journal privately all of those "Debby Downer" thoughts the days that you need to vent. When asked about things troubling you say something along the lines of "There's always room for improvement" and quickly smile change the subject. 

In the comments below, tell me which of these 8 tips you are going to try to incorporate into your daily life first.  I'm struggling with 1 & 8, but if I keep focusing on it I know I'll improve. Thanks for reading, and remember to stay inspired!